Community Guidelines

A place for each other

Stand In Pride brings together LGBTQ+ people and allies for support and chosen family. Everyone helps shape the experience of being here.

You can ask for support. You can offer it. You can take time to get to know people. These guidelines explain the care and respect we ask everyone to bring.

Treat people with respect

Use the names and pronouns people share with you. Listen to their experience without asking them to defend who they are.

Bullying, hate, harassment, sexism, racism, homophobia, and transphobia are not welcome. Disagree without attacking someone. Do not threaten, impersonate, or deliberately mislead other members.

Keep the community focused on connection. Do not spam, solicit, or use it to promote your business.

Protect each other’s privacy

Ask before sharing someone’s photo, message, or story outside the group. Do not share screenshots or identifying details without permission. Never disclose someone’s LGBTQ+ identity to others without their consent.

Share your own information thoughtfully, too. A private group still contains people you may not know. Avoid posting home addresses, financial information, or anything you would not want copied.

Respect boundaries

Ask what kind of support someone wants. Advice, a conversation, or a meeting should be welcome, never pressured.

• A “no” or a change of mind deserves respect.
• Be clear about what you can offer and when you are available.
• Do not pressure someone to reply, meet, accept a gift, share personal details, or continue a relationship.
• If plans change, let the other person know.

Being a stand-in does not give anyone a right to someone else’s time, story, or trust.

Meeting in person

Take time to get to know someone before making plans. For your first meetings:

• Choose a public place where you feel comfortable.
• Tell someone you trust where you are going and who you are meeting.
• Keep control of your transport and give yourself a way to leave.
• Be cautious about sharing personal information or sending money.

If something feels wrong, you can step back or leave. Joining a group is not a guarantee about another person’s identity or behavior.

When something feels wrong

Use the group’s reporting tools or contact its administrators about behavior that concerns you. You can also use Facebook’s blocking and reporting tools. Follow the reporting instructions in your group’s rules.

Do not post another member’s private information in a public accusation. Give the administrators the details they need through the appropriate reporting route.

If someone is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. Do not wait for a group reply.

Before you join

Read your regional group’s current rules, membership requirements, and entry questions. If you are unsure about age eligibility or whether the group is right for you, ask its administrators.

These guidelines sit alongside each group’s rules and the rules of the platform hosting it.